Dating advice after first date
So what’s a midlife woman who was raised in a world where men were “supposed” to make the first move do?Here are a few ideas to help you get the hang of dating after 60.
Maybe you’ve got your own great first date questions, surefire winners that get the conversation rolling.The best communication occurs with an even and equal exchange between two people. Getting to know someone new is like peeling an onion one thin layer at the time. But some people, overeager to get into deep and meaningful conversation, go too far too fast. Think of conversation as a tennis match in which the players lob the ball back and forth. They ask personal or sensitive questions that put the other person on the defensive. If feeling inhibited is a problem for some people, others go to the opposite extreme: they use a date as an opportunity to purge and vent. Another place to meet interesting men is the good old standby, the coffee shop. Sometimes just asking whether the chocolate muffins are any good is enough to start a great conversation. You’re not looking for the love of your life (although it would be nice to find him).Many men come in every day to get their cup of chai or latte. Start a casual conversation with the man standing in line and smile! At this point, you’re just looking to make a friendly connection.Social media has opened wonderful doors of connection, so, don’t be afraid to look up a single high school friend and even consider attending your next reunion or class event.
Use Linked In to casually say hi to interesting men you’ve met at events.
The process begins by providing lots of space for the full expression of information and asking follow-up questions to further draw out the one talking.
With those thoughts in mind, now it’s time to think about specific first date questions.
In my recent interview with dating coach, David Wygant, he suggested that men are often the ones who lack confidence and suffer from fear of rejection.
He says that older women have the power to make a connection that turns into a dating opportunity.
The two pick at their dinner salads, staring down at the leafy mound before them. Finally, one of them tries to grease the wheels of conversation. Some people consider themselves skilled communicators because they can talk endlessly.