Dating user names
In Finding the One Online, I give you 7 hours of audio, a 180 page transcript, a 35 page workbook – and tips on everything from choosing the right site, to writing a compelling online dating profile, to taking the right photos, to flirting effectively via email so that every single person will want to meet you in person. What’s the most memorable username you’ve ever seen on a dating site?
Something playful and light, relevant to what you’re like, and funny if you’re a bit of a jokester. A username doesn’t have to encompass your entire personality to be good; it just has to be interesting and catchy enough to make someone want to click and learn a bit more about you.That would make them relevant and witty, and likely to stand out to similarly math-minded gals.Pinot Grizzly – Maybe : Sounds playful with subtle word play; indicates that this user likes wine and has that Northwest-scruffy vibe (you know, like a bit too much stuff from Filson and a few days’ of stubble). : Could possibly signify “bear,” which is a slang term in the gay community for guys who are a bit hairier/less effeminate.As someone who has been an online dating coach since 2003, I’d venture to guess that I’ve not only seen more usernames than just about anyone on the planet, but I’ve written more of them as well.Why do I think that usernames make a difference, when everyone knows that it’s all about the profile and photo?None of them force you really take time to think about that step, or let you fill out the other aspects of your profile while you ponder the all-important “username” field and come back to it once the creative juices are flowing. Check out this link about a JDate user who picked an icky name.
I confess I had no idea what “tossed salad” meant, but it turns out it meant something kinda kinky that did not convey what this gal intended.
it reflects that we have wildly different interests.
I also tend to steer clear of ones that include their astrological sign. In those cases, I might not avoid them just based on what’s in their profile.
The goal is to blend your sense of humor, possibly an activity or hobby or some esoteric word that in some way relates to you, and combine it all with word play that makes someone go “hmm” (in the good way, not this way) and give you a second look. : The “Cool Guys” part is boring and the rest is borderline creepy/offensive to most gals.
Of course, this will be paired with a GREAT profile picture, and a GREAT profile. Let’s analyze a couple usernames and think about what they convey to potential matches. Even if sex is important to you, you come off like a complete jackass if you actually spell that out with middle school shorthand.
These first ones are mainly designed with a straight guy in mind. As covered in the roundup link of bad username ideas, avoid anything sexxxxy here. The sex comes later; you can’t frontload it in a username.