Dating a girl with borderline personality disorder
Dating borderline women is like playing the game of thrones with one exception: winning isn’t an option. The good news: if you game them properly, you’ll render the competition irrelevant and the girl will be absolutely addicted to you.The bad news: she’ll still be in your life and you’ll have to deal with her craziness on a near-daily basis.
If your mindset is, “I need to break this bitch and win the game” then, no matter how many mini-battles you win, you still won’t make much headway.Better to wait for her to be affectionate on her own time.Yes, I know they’ve been a little angel for the last six weeks but expect a crash to happen any day now.In other words, let the cat crawl into your lap before you start petting it.Note: This strategy works well in any relationship, regardless of the girl’s personality type.You’ll need to stay sharp for the duration of the relationship. Sometimes you have to respond to their flirting and physical affection with some of your own, and other times you have to act unaffected and disinterested (there shouldn’t be a discernible pattern).
Remember, that if you were with a normal girl, sometimes you’d be in the mood for her affection (and for sex) and sometimes you wouldn’t.
So here’s the tricky part: if you’re too much of an aloof asshole, she’ll be unable to trust you and her crazy behavior will just get worse.
But if you’re too nice and understanding, she’ll lose her respect and attraction for you. The way I play it is to always come from the heart, no matter how aggravated I get.
Sometimes they’ll crave it and other times they’ll be repulsed by it (depending on which part of their personality is taking center stage).
As a general rule, refrain from physical affection until they’re showing signs of receptivity.
Most just can’t accept this and the ones who have this awareness typically hate themselves because they’re unable to stop their bullshit (as much as they’d like to).