Dating is not fair for men
So why on earth should I settle for an out-of-condition old codger like him just because society deems it appropriate for me?Especially not when I still feel vibrant and youthful enough to attract the hot young Pups of this world? ’ sneered one anonymous troll, while others gleefully informed me that my actions meant I faced a sad and lonely old age.
I wasn’t sure whether he’d do the awkward arm-stretch-behind-my-chair manoeuvre, or ‘accidentally’ brush his thigh against mine.Still, there were times when the idea of a permanent partner seemed appealing. Did I really want to know about that classic 1966 Mercedes SL he’d restored, or where his children went to school?Knowing I wouldn’t get this with a much younger man, I decided to remain open to dates with men nearer my own age, who could sing along to the Rolling Stones. Ever since my book was published, I’d been inundated with correspondence from older men who wanted to prove they had just as much going for them as the young bucks had. He was no matinee idol but looked presentable enough. No, I wanted the thrill of seeing a beautiful young man over the other side of the dinner table, laughing at my anachronisms and making me giddy with excitement.At 65, my date (I’ll call him Jerry) was a few years older than me.We’d been introduced by a mutual friend who thought we would be a good match.Here’s 10 things no one tells you about dating in your 50s. Men in their 50s like to complain They like to moan about the price of coffee in Starbucks, the parking, the traffic, the weather they had to fight through to get to the date…
In other words, they’ve had to make the effort to see you.
In my view, today’s middle-aged British men are rather lost at sea.
They’re not great on grooming, mistakenly taking their lead from the young.
We exchanged friendly messages and spoke on the phone. We stayed in touch via email and Daniel kept trying to pursue things further, but I knew there would be no point.
You can’t commit yourself to someone because he is a nice person — even if he does have a cool car.
I mean, designer stubble can look sexy on a cute 26-year-old, but it makes a 62-year-old look like a dishevelled pensioner.