Internet dating in scotland
As a Canadian dating in Scotland, I initially found it quite difficult as there isn't the same culture/ tradition of dating as there is in North America.Back in Toronto, it wasn't considered strange/ too forward for a guy to approach you and either: (a) just start talking to you SOBER and/or (b) offer to buy you a drink.
Please note, however, that I am approaching the dangerous and controversial territory of dating in Scotland, from a North American perspective, and you may run the risk of being misinterpreted as "too forth right".In Glasgow, at least, people talk about the "hardness"of the cities inhabitants; it's not called a Glasgow Kiss for nothing and Glaswegian men are allowed to show limited emotions: anger (usually when their football team loses), elation (usually when their football team wins) and general day-to-day being at peace with the world. Now, obviously this is a sweeping generalisation and not true of all Scottish men.Indeed, I would say that it's rapidly changing for the better.Sure, you may be used to being directly asked this by a dude in Canada but over here? You see, here in the UK/ Scotland, there is a lot more happening than what would appear on the surface.For example, in a busy bar, rather than a barman/woman openly asking who is next (although sometimes they do), there is a subtle social interaction taking place.The word and idea makes people uneasy - perhaps it is, once again, too forth right and too straight-forward (I KNOW, RIGHT?!
) Scottish people wouldn't think too much about sleeping with a near stranger they met in a club, but asking for their number and to take them out for a meal? This isn't a judgement on a nation - just a mere lifeline for confused North American ladies.
Without uttering any words, the server will know who is to be served next, just by making eye contact with thirsty patrons at the bar.
If the server incorrectly eyes someone who is not next in line for a pint, they will usually shake their head and point at who should be next - if they're a decent human, anyway.
I get a surprising amount of emails from women - mainly American and Canadian - about dating Scottish men: e.g. North American dude; what does it mean when a Scottish guy asks them out for a drink with all his friends and so on and so forth.
Most of the time I respond because they're just looking for advice/ perspective and as everyone knows, I have publicly lamented about dating in this country so I am more than happy to pass on what I have learned, if anything.
Over here, it seems that young men and women meet through friends, work or in a bar/club and after meeting and consuming alcohol, the newly acquainted individuals go back to someone’s flat and shag.