Dating advice shy men
And what have you done when a man you’ve gone out with for more than a month is stingy in this area?
You can comment below, or link to this permanent URL from your own site.His actions — minimal as they were — should speak for themselves. Or he never learned to express himself to a woman in a way that would make her feel good.Upon sitting down for dinner with another man for a first encounter, he looked at me, paused, and said, “You’re .” I smiled and said, “Thank you.” That was the last time I heard it for several months. That feels good to hear.” He said, “I don’t tell beautiful women they are beautiful.” When I asked, “Why not?Some men tell you they think you are attractive on the first or other early dates. For two months I dated a man who never said he thought I was attractive.In frustration at his aloofness, one day I said to him, “I don’t even know if you find me attractive.” He said, “I’m pursuing you, aren’t I?When I was growing up, my mom quickly realized that I wasn’t going to follow in my outgoing sister’s footsteps.
Instead, she described me as an old soul, a kid that liked to be alone, and spoke up only when there was something important to say.
But alas, his thinking (or at least saying) I was gorgeous was not enough to keep him around after three dates. Intellectually we know that it only matters that think we are attractive, and what others think isn’t our concern.
But deep down we also like to know that the person we are dating finds us attractive and is able to express that genuinely.
But by placing these characteristics in the forefront of what’s important to us as a society, we put a great deal of pressure on introverts to adopt those traits.
We assume that all introverts are shy and lack charisma, because they don’t seek out the spotlight like extroverts.
So I find it best to not tell women they are beautiful, pretty or sexy.” Can you imagine?