Girls dating guys in wheelchairs
And one time at a restaurant, when I was in college, a waitress addressed only my boyfriend until he pointed out that I could speak for myself.
It’s a constant push and pull between trusting my instincts and being unsure of what’s to come.A boring Friday night can instantly turn into a party with a bottle of wine, a spare wheelchair, and a stopwatch.I’m normally hesitant to dance because I feel like the wheelchair gets in the way and can look completely stupid, but at a wedding a few years ago, my whole attitude was changed by a mysterious Zach Galifianakis lookalike.Much of it comes from ignorance, while others want to try and demonstrate how cool they are with my disability, so they feel the need to call it out.People largely have good intentions, but just don’t know what to do. These lines have been tried on me over a hundred times over the last few years, and they have literally worked once.Any relationship will falter when there’s not open communication, but it’s even more important when you’re dating someone with a disability.
Whether it’s understanding the nature of the disability, expressing concerns, or asking how things are going to work in the boudoir, no question is off limits.
In one instance, I was getting out of my car at a beer festival and several strangers yelled at my boyfriend for not helping me.
He told them that he needed more help than I ever would.
Some of my boyfriends have left me out of things like skiing or beach days, or constantly assumed I needed help because they thought activities would be too difficult for me.
It’s better to ask first, and let me tell you what I can or can’t do, than to never ask and be left wondering (or exclude me).
So, here are some of the most important things you need to know when it comes to dating someone with a disability. In that case, it wasn’t the line, but the fact that the guy was just...super hot.